Showing posts with label retirement. Show all posts
Showing posts with label retirement. Show all posts

Monday, July 16, 2012

Happy Retirement, Fr. Brian!


I’ve always felt that, as Catholics, we need to have both an inner spiritual life and an outward life of Christian action in the world.  We have to have be prayerful and contemplative, spending time establishing a relationship with God and making the teachings of the Bible part of our lives.  But, we also have to act on those teachings, bringing God’s love to others.  However, I have to admit, my inclination is more toward the action-in-the-world aspect of my religion.

A couple weeks ago my wife, Pat, and I attended a retirement party for a priest friend who is a great example of bringing God’s love to others.  Fr. Brian McCormick lived and worked in the Wilbur section of Trenton, NJ, for 42 years as a living sign of the love of God in this world.  Initially, the home where he lived and welcomed others into was called The Martin House.  Over the time he lived and worked there, it developed into The Martin HouseFoundation: A Community for Justice.  The programs sponsored by MHFCJ include rehabbing and building homes, Boy Scout and Girl Scout programs, an early learning center, a homeless shelter, a used clothing/thrift store, a summer camp program, and more.

A major part of the Martin House Foundation is Better Community Housing of Trenton. Over the past 42 years, BCHT has renovated or built a total of 167 homes.  Its process is similar to Habitat for Humanity, in that it relies on volunteers to help renovate and build the homes, the prospective homeowners have to put sweat equity into the home and homeowners receive a low-cost mortgage that is interest-free.  But it goes beyond that, in that it is a job-training program for young people who live in the neighborhood.  Working alongside skilled craftsmen, they learn marketable skills that will help them improve their lives and their employment prospects.

There were about 300 guests at Fr. Brian’s retirement party.  They included family, friends, BCHT home owners, people from the Wilbur section and employees  and volunteers of The Martin House family of programs.  While there were tributes and declarations from city and state politicians, the most moving words came from individuals who had been helped by the Martin House programs.  There were women who had been involved in the drill team as teenagers, who are now working as social workers.  Homeowners who talked about how home ownership had changed their lives.  And volunteers who talked about how helping renovate and build the homes had made such a big difference in their lives.  But most of all, they talked about Fr. Brian and how much they admired him for all he had done for their community.  More than one person said that he had saved their lives.

Fr. Brian’s ministry at Martin House was different from most parish priests.  Although many parishes have some ministries to focus on the poor and the needy, it frequently seems like a small slice of the pie.  For Fr. Brian, it was most of the pie, if not the whole pie.  Thinking about Fr. Brian’s work in Trenton brings to mind Jesus being criticized for spending so much time with the poor, the sick, the leprous, the sinners.  I think of Him saying that at the end of time he will welcome into his kingdom those who fed the hungry, gave drink to the thirsty, clothed the naked, welcomed the stranger and cared for the sick.

Now, Fr. Brian is retired.  His ministry to the people of the Wilbur section is done.  But his vision lives on in the organization he founded and nurtured over the last 42 years.  Throughout those years, he created, cultivated and reinforced a culture that will continue to have a very positive influence on the Wilbur section.  And we are all better off because of it.  Thank God for Fr. Brian McCormick!

Here’s a picture of Pat and me with Fr. Brian on the day of the party.




Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Rituals of Comfort


Here's a picture of my slippers.  You may recall that, in an earlier post, I said that one of the things I was looking forward to in retirement is being able to spend more time wearing my slippers.  The biggest reason that I'm looking forward to that is that my feet really hurt when I'm wearing shoes.  Wearing sneakers isn't so bad, but sometimes they hurt my feet too.  When I wear shoes I get a pain across my feet just at the base of my toes.  More so on my right foot than on my left.  By the end of the day, when I get home, I just want to get out of my shoes and put on my slippers.

I got my current slippers for Christmas this past year.  I actually ordered them on-line without having seen them in person or having tried them on.  I know I was taking a risk but it seems to have worked out.  I'd been looking at slippers for a while in stores and didn't find any that called out to me.  A lot of the slippers I saw in stores seemed too stiff to me.  I like slippers that are soft and flexible.  Not just the top part but also the sole.

For a number of years, I bought my slippers from Lands End.  But, they don't seem to sell them any more.  The ones from Lands End were very soft and the soles were made from soft leather, not from rubber.  Here's a picture of an old pair of slippers from Lands End.


I still have these and keep them in the stairway that goes from the kitchen to the basement - nice and handy.  If I don't want to go up to our bedroom on the third floor to get my new slippers, I just pull these old faithfuls out and put them on.  Ahhhh!

A number of years ago, I attended a presentation where the speaker talked about rituals of comfort.   He spoke about how we all have these and how they make our lives ... well, more comfortable.  Some people might always start their day by having a cup of coffee and reading the morning newspaper.  Some might go for a run or go to the gym when they get home from work.  Some people like to watch the evening news each evening after finishing dinner.  These can be rituals of comfort.  If you like to start your day off with a cup of coffee and the newspaper, imagine how out-of-sorts you might feel if you discover that you're out of coffee or the newpaper didn't show up on your porch.  It would throw you off.  We all have ways that we organize things and we take comfort that we can find things when we want them.  Imagine if someone had moved everything in your kitchen cabinets and drawers to different locations and you had to search through all the cabinets and drawers to find something you always kept in a certain place.  How disruptive that would be!

Wearing my slippers is a ritual of comfort for me.  It's a ritual that provides comfort not only to my feet but also to my soul.  (Pun intended.)

What are your rituals of comfort?

Monday, January 30, 2012

Looking Forward to Retirement


Here are some things I’m looking forward to when I retire:
Not having to drive at least an hour to and from work.
Not having to get up at around 5:45 am to exercise before work.
Not having to get out early to shovel 6 inches of snow before going to work.
Being able to choose how I will spend my day.
Being able to have lunch with my lovely wife.
Having time to read more (serious things and entertaining mysteries).
Having time to use the woodshop tools I’ve been collecting.
Having time to ride my bicycle during the week (for exercise and leisure).
Not having to wear a tie to work.
Being able to dress casually every day.
Being able to wear my slippers for more than a couple hours a day.
Saving money on gas and servicing for my car.
Not having to worry about how bad the traffic will be on Route 80 at the end of the day, when I’m driving back from Paterson.
Being able to sleep in if I haven’t slept well during the night.
Not having to worry about requests for reports, lists, etc., by the end of the day.
Having more time to get repairs done around the house.
Less stress and having my blood pressure be lower than it’s been in the past few years.  Now there’s one I’m really looking forward to.
Giving people the opportunity to say “Boy, Emil looks really good since he retired.”  I don’t know how many times I’ve heard people say that about other retirees.  I’m not sure why that is.  But, I’m looking forward to seeing whether it works for me.  I’ll let you know a year from now.